A Belated Christmas Eve Story

A guest post from my friend, Raven.

I read in the paper today that 72% of American pet owners will have at least one gift for their pet under the Christmas tree. Gifts ran the gamut from treats and winter coats to special beds and “Juicy Crittoure” shampooch and coif-fur.

I’m the last person who’d criticise someone for buying their pet a Christmas present. I did when B.G. was alive. And I’ll always remember one Christmas Eve, when she gave me the greatest gift I ever got in my life.

I had been poor for several years, and that year was an especially bad one. I was barely meeting the rent and essential bills, and had very little to spend on Christmas gifts. I (badly) handmade everything I gave that year, and was very depressed because nothing had turned out very well, and, to be frank, most of the recipients were not going to be impressed by my efforts.

I didn’t have any clue what kind of gift to make for a dog, and I was already working every hour I possibly could to earn enough money to survive Christmas break (I worked at the university, and it closed for several weeks), so I decided not to include B.G. on my Christmas gift list. She was, after all, a dog and didn’t understand what Christmas was about anyway, so she wouldn’t expect anything or want anything.

But I felt bad about that decision, and I felt worse as Christmas approached. A dog never criticises or complains. A dog is always there for you, no matter what kind of day you’ve had. And B.G. was a working dog, on duty 24/7 to help me with my deafness and guard me from threats.

I finally decided I could not fail to have a gift for her, if only because I felt she deserved one. On Christmas Eve, I ransacked my pockets, the bottom of my purse, looked under the couch cushions, and looked everywhere I could think of to rummage up cash. I managed to scrum up less than $3.

But my roommate and I packed B.G. in the car, and went out to shop for something suitable for a dog. It was after 7 p.m. I’d thought the stores would be open until 9. Imagine my shock when we found sign after sign on darkened stores reading, “We close at 6 on Christmas Eve.”

The only place we could find that was still open and might have supplies for pets was a grocery store. We all got out of the car, and I went inside. My roommate remained outside with B.G.; they would walk up and down the sidewalk, for exercise and to entertain the dog.

The grocery store had about half an aisle devoted to pet needs, mostly food, and some mundane equipment. I searched with a sinking heart for something special, and saw nothing that was both special and affordable. I finally selected a double-sided fur brush. It was cheap, just about $2.50, and, I tried to console myself, something she did need, her old brush having become very soft and bent and inefficient.

But I was trying not to cry, because it was so mundane and ugly, and I didn’t even have any wrapping paper at home; I was going to have to give it to her in the plain brown grocery store bag.

Some gift for your bestest best friend.

I felt horrible as I paid and headed for the exit.

Waiting right outside the door were B.G. and my roommate. “What are you doing here?” I exclaimed. “Your timing’s great, but I thought you’d be walking up and down.”

No, he explained, B.G. had planted herself at the door as soon as I went inside and refused to budge.

I looked down into the face of a canine angel.

She was as close to glowing as a black-and-copper dog can be. The light in her eyes, the excited wag of her tail and full body wiggle, the excited panting and wuffles, all of her saying, “You’re back! You’re back! I love you so much!”

And I realised she truly didn’t care about the bag in my hand or that tomorrow was Christmas.

All she really wanted was to be by my side for always.

I was enveloped in her unconditional love, and that evening I finally understood what it means to have the special love of a pet, and that material things have no value to compare.

I think it was the first time in that Christmas season that I felt happy. The next morning, I sat by the Christmas tree and gave B.G. the brown bag. She had a grand time opening the top and pulling out the brush, which she brought right to me, her eyes flashing with pride at being such a good dog. I took off the cardboard wrap, showed it to her, and then started brushing her.

She was in ecstasy. That cheap, mundane brush I’d cried over because it wasn’t special enough immediately became her favourite possession. For the rest of her life, I only had to hold up that brush, and she would light up like a candle.

It’s been eight years now since B.G. died, but every Christmas Eve, I take out her brush and relive that incredible feeling of warmth and joy on the night I realised how much my dog loved me for myself.

So what’s the point of this recollection? Maybe I’m just trying to say that if you want to give your pet a gift, go ahead. And if you don’t want to or can’t afford to, don’t take a guilt trip. They’ll love the same whether you do or don’t. That’s the miracle of a pet’s love. I hope all of who have pets experience it daily.

A very Happy Christmas to all, human and fur, with love from Raven, and, in ever-loved and loving spirit, B.G.

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In memory of B.G., who crossed over the Rainbow Bridge after New Year’s 2000.

This was a guest post written by my friend, Raven.

But, but– Jesus likes dreidls!

And to prove that Indiana has more than cutters:
At least I now know the tune to the dreidl song.
And thanks to Rabbi Reba for reminding me of this post last year about Christmas music. I stand by everything I said.
(Though I am still wondering why a lady rabbi is hanging out on an Episcopal Singles site. On the other hand, I’m sure the Episcopal Singles don’t mind at all, being, you know, Episcopalian.)
But, I digress.
This year the only new Christmas music I’ve added is Josh Groban, because I trusted that he would do some straight-forward music without a lot of messing around. I should have looked at the actual back of the CD, and then I would have noticed duets with Faith Hill–Faith Hill!–and the like.
::shudder::

But there is lovely Josh Groban-ness to make up for his lapse in judgment, so I am pleased. And the nice things about iPods is I don’t have to load the songs I don’t like.

Take that, Faith Hill.

Mistletoe: A Christmas Drabble*

Mistletoe.

Why did there have to be mistletoe?

Hanging in doorways.

From light fixtures.

Enough for all to enjoy.

She avoided it.

She refused to be caught.

Under the mistletoe.

With no one who cared.

Who cared to get caught with her.

To kiss her.

She sat alone, huddled in the corner chair.

And didn’t notice when he came up behind her.

He leaned close.

She looked up in surprise.

His lips.

Were here.

By hers.

Parted.

To kiss.

She gasped.

At the mistletoe.

He held—

Over her head .

She didn’t see it.

Hit the floor…

Its job done.

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*A drabble is an extremely short work of fiction exactly one hundred words in length.

Pass it on.

And please, is you take the challenge and write a Christmas drabble of your own, will you post a link in the comments here? I’d love to see what you do.

In the meantime, I tag Candace.

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The Mistletoe Gatherer, 1894

A Christmas Feast

This is the first in what I plan to be several posts about places I’d love to be this Christmas. Consider this a variation of the “Where in the World Wednesday” series that is on hiatus right now.

First, I confess, I discovered this restaurant because of a photo. I would go there in a heartbeat and eat whatever they serve, just to be there.

But then, I have a weakness for all things medieval.

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And look at this!

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Oh, and if you’re wondering, it’s the Peppersack in Tallinn, Estonia. I love their movie, but this one on youtube is okay.

Checking out their Christmas menu makes me want to surf the web for some Estonian recipes. I’ll pass on the herring, though, thank you very much.

‘Tis the season.

Christmas in Tallinn:

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And if anybody knows of any medieval restaurants that don’t have sword fights and belly dancers, I’m not that interested in the touristy thing. It just comes with the territory in this place.

My virtual Christmas travel itinerary is wide open!

 

 

Ave Maria

I’ve always known the hymn, Ave Maria. It seems to crop up on a lot of Christmas albums. I heard it sung at church on various occasions, including just because the soprano wanted to sing it.

This is probably the one we’re all most familiar with. The Schubert:

This is the good part of the blog. This is where I get to piss off Baptists.

I know a lot of Baptists and they are friends and good people. But when it comes to Ave Maria, they are leeches of the worst kind.

You see, I know many Baptists who love Ave Maria. They may have had it sung at their weddings. (Yes, weddings.) They may have had it sung at various church services. (Don’t worry about the time of year; they aren’t liturgical so don’t worry about singing to a certain liturgy.)

And they don’t seem to understand what Ave Maria is.

It is a prayer to the Blessed Virgin.

You know, the Virgin that they kick to the curb unless it’s Christmas and they need a pretty girl to hold the babe?

Yes, that Virgin.

It’s a prayer to the Blessed Virgin Mary (aka BVM) which is something the Baptists equate with worshiping idols.

Ooops.

Not only is it a prayer–it’s THE prayer.

Hail Mary, anyone?

But I was as ignorant as any Baptist before I became an Episcopalian and started stumbling across all this Catholic stuff. (Which was cool, because I love Catholic stuff, and as an Episcopalian I get to have it without the Pope and the Magisterium nonsense. See? My day is complete. Now I get to piss off the Catholics, too.)

But Ave Maria was changed for me the night I sat in a darkened cathedral and was surrounded by an a cappella choir singing the Biebl version.

And I wept.

And words that had merely been words before, became prayer and hymn and transcendent.

There are various translations and some are controversial, but it’s very simple.

Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee; blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death. Amen.

I have witnessed death. I have witnessed the death of my grandfather and my father. I have witnessed the deaths of beloved pets. None of this was violent or graphic, for which I’m grateful. But the fact remains, I have witnessed death.

And the idea of Mary praying with us during those hours of death is overwhelmingly powerful and comforting.

So even if I were still a Methodist girl, I’d be embracing Ave Maria and all it stands for, not just as another pretty song.

And the fact that I’m not a Methodist any more, well, I consider that a bonus.

The Biebl Ave Maria:

And one of these days I may actually progress to Hail Holy Queen.

Tomorrow… Hail Mary.